Don’t Let Your Phone Run Your Life

Don't Let Your Phone Run Your Life

Our phones certainly seem to run our lives!

Don't Let Your Phone Run Your LifeYou know what I am talking about. You’re speaking to a friend and all of a sudden their cell phone rings; your friend makes you wait as they answer the call. Or, as I am in touch with the sales industry, I’ll call a salesperson and when he or she answers, I always ask for permission to speak. “Hello, this is Chuck, do you have a moment?” and receive the reply, “No, I can’t talk right now, I’m in a meeting with a client.”

Then why in the world are you answering the phone?!

As we all know, it doesn’t stop there. Driving down the fast lane on every freeway in America is a person so engrossed in their phone call that they are impeding traffic and causing cars to make unnecessary lane changes. With each lane change the chances of an accident increase dramatically. In fact, a recent news report stated that our chances of being involved in a serious car accident are eight times greater when speaking on a cell phone. Even the newer phones with earbuds or wireless headsets did not seem to make any difference in the accident rate. Moreover, you’re more likely to cause an accident when you’re speaking to someone who raises your stress level—the very person you should avoid talking to when trying to drive!

Motor vehicle accidents are on the rise because of cell phones.

Why? Because cell phones take away our ability to focus on the task at hand: driving the car. Whenever I drop something while driving, or my cell phone rings, the words of my flight instructor ring true when recalling a minor distraction in the cockpit —“Fly the plane.” In the car that little voice in your head should say “Drive the car.”  Minor distractions can kill!  Maybe the city of Santa Fe, New Mexico, the first city to adopt the “No cell phone while driving” law, was right!

Consider this: when you’re behind the wheel, the typical reaction time, the time it takes us to realize that there is something we need to react to, is about ¾ of a second. It doesn’t seem like a lot, does it?  However, look at these approximate numbers supplied by expert accident investigators:

A car traveling at:

  • 30 mph is moving at about 33 feet per second
  • 50 mph is moving at about 55 feet per second
  • 70 mph is moving at about 77 feet per second

When you apply the ¾ of a second reaction time to these numbers, it’s easy to see why there are so many accidents caused by drivers who are speaking on their cell phones. I’ll never forget the story about the man who was driving his car while talking to his wife on his cell. As he ran a stop sign, his last words that he screamed out to her were “Oh <expletive>!”  He died on impact as another car slammed into his.

We cannot speak on the phone while completing another task!

The next time you’re shopping, or even walking down the street, or at a busy airport terminal, look at the people around you who are talking on their cell phones. Are they able to continue to walk, shop and talk all at the same time, or do they stop and block others as they attempt to carry on their loud and very important conversation?

Unlike speaking face-to-face, speaking on a cell phone obviously requires the additional concentration that makes it difficult—if not almost impossible—for us to carry on with our seemingly ordinary physical task(s), such as shopping or even walking! So it stands to reason that the even more complicated and potentially hazardous activity of driving should be left completely alone, without the interruption of cell phones. By turning off your cell when you drive, you’ll be able to stay focused, perhaps even avoiding a fatal accident.

After all, is ANY call that important?

Being perpetually attached to our cell phones creates additional challenges, such as putting others on hold, being controlled by the phone, losing solitude, and increasing our personal stress levels.

Developing an intimate connection with our fellow humans is probably at an all-time low—just look at the national divorce rate. Sensory overload could be part of the problem.  Another report recently stated that the average American responds to 197 messages each day.  From answering our phones, to responding to email or faxes, we have absolutely no time to reconnect with our fellow humans in person.

I’ve been around friends who allow their cell phones to ring continuously, and usually it’s the same caller. I asked a friend once why that same person kept calling. After listening to her explanation of all the calls and learning more about her friend, it was obvious that her friend was insecure, controlling, and very needy—she always had to be talking to someone. If she wasn’t speaking to someone on the phone, her anxiety level rose.

Top 7 “Don’t Let Your Phone Run Your Life” Suggestions:

  1. Answer the phone at your convenience, not theirs.
    Have specific boundaries of speaking on the phone when driving, i.e. “I will not be on my cell phone during rush hour traffic.”
  2. “No-Phone Zones”
    Create “No-Phone Zones” during dinner or family gatherings, or on random days or times, i.e. “Wednesday night will be a no-phone night.”
  3. Turn Your Ringer Off
    When in a personal or business meeting of any kind, never answer the phone unless it’s an emergency. Turn your ring tone to vibrate or off.
  4. Block Out Phone Time
    If you use the phone frequently for work, block out phone time and post a sign on your door so social visits are diminished while you place 100% of your focus on your calls.
  5. Use Softer Tones
    Use softer ring tones versus the newer and much louder (maybe obnoxious?) ring tones.
  6. Don’t Drive While Talking On The Phone!
    Remember—when you’re driving and on the phone, all other drivers on the road must be responsible to drive perfectly to avoid an accident. That’s not very likely to happen.
  7. Turn Off Your Ringer When Talking To Others
    As Americans, we’re not known for our listening or intimacy-building skills. Being good listeners is hard enough – then we throw our cell phones in the mix and we become very good at disconnecting from the person we’re actually with.  An easy way to become a better listener and advance intimacy-building skills is to turn that phone ringer off when engaged in a conversation with another person.

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As you ponder what you’ve read, also consider that the phone affects your solitude and personal stress levels too. The telephone, mainly our cellphones, seem to run our lives. Does that mean it ruins our lives? Are we missing out on some important opportunities? Maybe . . . but in my experience, it sure seems as though we make a beeline to our cell every time it rings. Think about this . . . the next time your phone rings, stop for a moment and consider what it would take to stay in the present, either with the task at hand, or the conversation you’re currently in.

By employing some of these considerations, you’ll allow yourself the freedom from being controlled by your phone and start living your life with some amount of solitude and independence from the phone.

 Now, you’ll have to excuse me—I’ve got to go take this call . . .

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Sales & Business Coach Chuck Bauer

One of North America’s most noted sales & business consultants, Chuck’s expertise spans over thirty years of sales training and business development consulting. Companies and businesses from a variety of industries benefit from his business and management consulting, individual sales training, and sales tune ups drawn from over 10,000+ LIVE sales training experiences.

He has personally coached on 1000s of transactional/non-transactional sales processes all the way up to multi-million dollar international sales deals. To date, Chuck has helped well over 50 C-Level executives, hundreds of business owners, and thousands of individual salespeople work smarter, make more money, so they can take more quality time off!

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